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Stop Sweating the Small Stuff

June 20, 2016

As I sit pondering, maybe even tumbling some thoughts in my brain; I think about the countless aspects that circulate priority at this very moment. I mean, what else does one think about when they zone off into that “mature phase of responsibilities” when they sit as their work desk sometimes?  The worries, “must do activities” bill payments, having to ready oneself for an uncomfortable hearing with your in-laws or even thinking about next month’s rent payment. Sounds like a truck load of unwanted duties that may deem righteous and paramount for some whilst others simply classify as small stuff.  This preamble therefore brings me to the backbone of the matter now. What is considered “small stuff” might be viewed different to all of us. What I can concur however  is that we can tend to birth  problems for something minuscule that can be consequently overlooked or dealt with in a different manner .

Based upon how we handle certain dilemmas at times, we can even prevent fights, disputes or actions of belligerence. Hastiness can many a time lead to hot tempered behavior or over escalation that can be unhealthy to our blood pressure and mental health.  Listen to the message someone is trying to relay before getting riled up, and empathize with that person’s point of view and react accordingly. I am not saying change who you are and your thought pattern, but rather allow common and practical judgment to unfold. Don’t assume everything is targeted to make your life miserable as this is where negativity and obscurity resides and this will ultimately fuel depression and hatred. Learn to observe and assess a situation before blowing up. When circumstances for confrontation ensues, losing it can be more stressful rather than taking the highroad. Hence it takes a great amount of self control and tact ability to secure ones pride and valid point. We can be more understanding than we think, for example recently a friend of mine called me and was clearly upset about her manager changing her day off to another and she had plans already. I said to her things do happen and you can rearrange your plans, she snapped at me. I didn’t approve of her tone, but I took a deep breath and told her to go relax and call me back when she was ok. Now had I snapped back and yell at her the conversation could of turned sour, instead I took the highroad. Not all situations will be turn out that way, however find that inner peace and master the art of control and your reactions.

“As Mother Teresa reminds us, “We cannot do great things on this earth. We can only do small things with great love.”

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2 Comments

  • Reply Sean June 21, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    Nice Article

  • Reply DENNIS ARANGO June 26, 2016 at 3:07 am

    Although perspective is required to consider certain aspects in life as “small stuff,” nothing trumps self actualization. Anything that is an unnecessary distraction to a goal, or that becomes more trouble than it’s worth, can be considered small stuff. It’s ok to become upset at something not going your way, but to prolong that feeling of frustration, sadness, and helplessness, simply shows how worthless said “thing” truly is. I would like to say much more, but I do not wish to bore with my many thoughts.

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